Are you leading or are you being lead?

And whatever the answer….is it a conscious decision.

This podcast made me hurt from laughing and cracked me open with its truth.

It's with the brilliant,  Traver Boehm.

Traver is the author of Today I Rise, a TEDx speaker and men’s coach, currently practicing intentional nomadism. He is the founder of the Man Uncivilized Movement redefining the way around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both the Primal Masculine with the Divine.

What I love about this podcast is that I know in my heart of hearts, just by listening people will have some profound shifts and life insights.

Traver is the kind of man that makes the feminine feel safe because, within himself, he’s done, and continues to do the integration work of his shadows. But most of all, he’d be too humble to say so.

In this episode, we unpack the history of masculine trauma, the light, dark and gold of the shadows and the evolutionary consciousness and importance of our collective healing.

We unpack how he came to write his freshly published and genuinely soul-awakening book, The Uncivilised Man.

A few of  the many points we cover:

• How the masculine unconsciously or consciously outsource their emotional healing to the feminine
• What's in the shadows of the collective masculine
• What a man can do to make a woman feel safe
• The history of how men became civilised, suppressed and traumatized and the ripple effect that we are now facing.
• The devil and savior of social media and its connection to depression and healing
• How the birth of the Civilised concept evolved from a conversation about Mc Donalds.
• What a shadow is and how to find the gold in the shadows and or reclaim the power that’s maybe there
• The red flags that there is trauma to be worked through and how it plays out in a relationship and life
• How the masculine shadow triggers the feminine shadow and how the feminine can make the moves first to catalyse healing
• What steps you can take to heal and move towards the truest most conscious version of yourself?
• Compassion, compassion and more compassion.
• CHALLENGE:

Find someone you can trust and have an honest conversation with, and share what your written reply to this question is (writing for one minute) “if my pain could speak to me today it would say”…

Pain has depth, you have to go to a depth to reach pain. 

You have to breathe to find it and then breathe to heal it.

So, loves...

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Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

Did you ever think to look at your missing element?

Me neither, until I spoke to Debra Silverman on podcast #37

Debra Silverman is part Astrologer, part psychologist, part comedian and ALL REAL. She helps people turn on their own inner observer, to see the things they say and do in a totally objective way. Debra has been in private practice for over 40 years. She uses astrology and her own system called The 4 Elements (or 4E for short) as tools to help people step into their power. Debra’s mothering approach to understanding and empowering people from all walks of life has earned her international fame and admiration. She has written a book, magazine columns, hosted a radio show and has a YouTube channel with over 7 million views.

Key takeaways we explore:

• the science and art of combining psychology, astronomy and astrology
• how to read astrology as the cheat sheet and fine print of our life lessons
• the basics of sun, rising and moon signs to understand yourself
• how to understand your elements and how its relative to balance
• the relationship of spirit working through our personal journey
• how to look within our signs and understand what keeps us stuck and how to  un-stick :)
• being the most yourself you can be is the best way to avoid suffering
• how to figure out the connection between you missing element and how you can become unstuck
• using astrology to navigate and choose relationships
• where to look to to understand your life lesson to get right to the centre

Website

Facebook

Instagram

Youtube

CHALLENGE

Discover your missing elements and surrender yourself to the greater good.

Each day, proclaim: use me, let me serve, let me be a channel for all. 

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Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

If you want real life examples of what it takes, looks and feels like to re-parent, heal, transcend the destructive behaviours that kept us safe as children but sacrifice our true selves as adults, this is your podcast. 

Kylie McBeath is the Co-Founder of Zura Health, Writer, Emotional Wellness Coach, and a spokesperson for soul. She is committed to uncovering the tools, technology, and ethos to live a life at the bleeding edge of our potential. From inner struggles to moments of complete bliss, Kylie invites us to the depths of our own shadow so that we can integrate, accept, and become the most aligned version of ourselves. Her mission is to create a world that is in harmony with all of life’s expressions by simply being her raw, vulnerable, and human AF self.

What I feel you'll vibe the most with in this episode:

• The road out of sabotage is liberating, but it comes with your whole body having to go through  the motions of fear and "death".  
• It's a process which we face on a human level as we collectively shift from powerlessness to  reclamation
•  Examining "death" and our survival strategies that are no longer in alignment with our highest
• Stepping out of punitive consciousness and cultivating practical practices to support this growth
• Tools and techniques that you can use right now to help you sustain your new choices and beliefs when it feels scary and impossible
• Exploring how boundary setting is a process that requires action and consequence not just verbal explanation
• Unpacking the different ways in which our feeling 'not enough' unless we receive or do X, Y and Z can show up in the masculine (yang) and feminine (yin) imbalance
• That we are all human, supporting and navigating this life and how powerful it can be to learn the lesson of asking for support, being radically honest with yourself and most of all, how to do this

This episode is so personal because well, it's something we all go through as humans and both Kylie  and I are real about this. We both know that expressing out  own journeys as well as sharing  advice, tools and techniques to do  this powerful work yourself are equally as important. W

We will definitely have a part two on this one!

For now, here is where to get more of Ky...

Website

Instagram @beingisbeautiful

Youtube

CHALLENGE

Reconnect to yourself, your inner-child and all the part within you. In stillness, validate all of the parts of  yourself that feel alone, unloved, unworthy. place your hand  on your body and give these parts of yourself hands on love, support and energy from within yourself, DAILY.  

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Be in your ears soon....

Hugs,

Ambz

Be patient, love. 

If you’d like to bloom, you must first be willing to be buried. 

Sit in the mud, let it wash over you, let the tears wash you clean, step into the freedom of your pain and let it cleanse you of blame and then, watch your confidence rise up and present itself love. 

After overcoming a life full of trauma, physical and sexual abuse, near-death experiences, breaking her back and being widowed, Erika Cramer found herself drowning in pain and sadness trying to numb everything she had been through. These life changing experiences finally lead her to life coaching where she went on a deep path to personal growth and healing. As a confidence coach she is here to guide women to living a life where they seek progress, not perfection. She is taking a bold stand for women owning their throne and reclaiming their confidence.

What I loved most about this episode is that Erika wanted to lick my face and I wanted to lick hers.

Translation: We vibed, and these kinds of conversations are full of flow, soul, insight and deep transformation for listenings. 

We touched on:

• How patience and perseverance through the rough shit is where confidence is learnt and cultivated. 
• If you dont choose to connect with others through transparency and honesty, you will feel more alone and helpless, and will stunt your expansion and burry your esteem. 
• Trust in self and life is built by committing to doing the work, and then acting on it. 
• Ownership of your experience should not be as simple as a Pinterest quote on a wall;  it's about deep healing, purging and profound insight that comes from all of the above. 
• Responsibility is not bypassing; you cannot be grateful and use your painful experiences until you've transcended the hurt and victim mentality. 
• Purpose through hardship and experience is the result of first becoming uncomfortable and then choosing, with an attitude of oneness, to share, teach and support others. 

It is deeply delicious and it's going to rock your mind and heart. Listen to the episode here:

You can find more of Erika here:

Website and Info on the Sistahood

Instagram @thequeenofconfidence

Podcast

Youtube

CHALLENGE

I got so excited that I forgot the challenge questions SO, I'm going to make one for you. 

Go and read, “Loving What Is”, by Byron Katie. I'm dead serious, it's a wicked and essential read to accelerating self reflection and self awareness. It's also very freeing. 

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

Let's talk mens integrity and mental health.

We are all connected to men in some way. We all have (or had) a father, we may have male siblings, friends, or intimate relationships, and we’re all intimately connected and affected by the mental wellbeing and integrity of men past, present and future. 

Part of the discussion of working through oppression and repression and patriarchy is how to prevent this from happening and help heal the unconscious within each person (specifically men in this podcast) that’s fuelling this in the first place. It’s being present with how this was created, building unity rather than separation from what we want to change, and support this through voice, action, unconditional love and expression. We need to heal together, not apart.

Mike is a men’s coach, author, and wannabe professional stone fruit eater. Mike is the founder of The School of Personal Mastery – a group coaching program for everyday men wanting to get their shit together and achieve greater success and happiness in their career, relationships, and life - without the guilt and hang-ups. 

With loving straight talk, Mike passionately makes personal development relatable, accessible, and applicable for everyday men to better help themselves and others. He is also the creator of Beyond The Beers, a show and series of live events for men taking a beer with mates to new depths, and actually talking about the shit that matters.

The dynamics of this interview shifts gears rapidly as we cover:

• What does it mean when you ask a man “Who are you?” and how this question is not a judgement, but an invitation that will move you towards what you may not know you’re missing.
• Understanding that avoidance or stimulation is a symptom of moving away from what we really need to pay attention to. Avoidance takes us in circles. 
• Examples of what it means to be in integrity with yourself as a man; thoughts, actions, words and life itself. 
• The struggles most men find themselves spinning around in and to identify where you are and what the next step may be.
• Why feeling stuck and going nowhere is the perfect place to begin a deeper inquiry.
• Specific questions to be able to reflect on when you feel stuck.
• How to move from head to heart to be able to hear oneself, hold space and transcend emotions, deepen self connection and get to know yourself better.
• Indoctrination to what it is to “be a man” and how we can ask the right questions to break away what no longer serves a man who wants to live in integrity. 
• How radical responsibility for emotions and self growth are fundamental to the collective healing.
• The relationship between masculine and feminine in a relationship and how our partners can reflect back our self deceptions.

Okay, more of Mike,

Where you can find Mike

Website

Instagram Handle

CHALLENGE

Find someone (either Mike, or search for a local  group in person) you resonate with online, and connect and take action on this. 

Remember: everyone is walking around pretending to have their shit together - they don’t.Give yourself permission to not have all the answers. Be okay with not having your shit together, and know that you get to do something about it.

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

There is nothing more delicious than a conversation with someones heart, not their head. 

Chris Black, AKA,  Chriddy is an exceptionally open hearted guy, who on top of being an extraordinary singer, songwriter, artist, is one of my clients.

He was recently on The Voice, a reality TV music show and he shares about the massive lessons he's gained by being thrust into the spotlight through  this career advance and how that triggered some of the worst anxiety and fears of judgment he's been working with for many years.

In this episode, he shares how he overcomes the fear of judgement, the anxiety he experienced on the show and the freedom he found in breathing and meditation practices he uses each day. 

What we discuss in this episode:

• Chris's experience of anxiety past, present and future and the impact of being on television as an artist and musician had on him
• The biggest lessons he learned about authenticity, vulnerability and expression by being on national television
• How to overcome negativity, criticism and rejection with a simple turn around thought
• The simple tools he uses to work through dark times, negative thoughts and the fear of judgment of others
• His experience with meditation, breath work, mindfulness and coaching and how he uses really simple practices to support a positive mindset and overcome fear on a day to day basis
• Sharing  what's it's like as an artist to question and own what your "purpose" is and what that means to him and how he wants to contribute to others
• His experience of a deep euphoria through his practices and how he uses this to achieve his goals
• The advice he as for artists/anyone standing in the face of  fear and following their dreams
• A VERY powerful action step for unlocking potential that we can all start doing right now

CHALLENGE

Each episode has a  challenge for listeners and this episode Chris challenges you to dream up  a big dream and each day in whatever  way you have available  to you right now, take a step or action towards it that scares the shit out of you.  

We are always so stocked to read and see your reviews, so if you enjoyed it, please let us know what you think of The Amber Hawken Podcast by rating and reviewing us  on your favourite platform  - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

Hugs,

Ambz

Let's talk about Reclaiming Anger!

My guest today is truly in the business of challenging the status quo, and in her own words, gets even the most stubborn of us grooving into an ass shaking + move making state of mind.

Angel Phoenix Arsenal (previously known as Angela Gallo) is on the podcast today with myself and my biz sidekick Tara Caetano (stay tuned for an upcoming solo interview with her soon), to help us reclaim our anger and open our minds up to our privilege, in a way that activates change for the future.

A little more about Angel:

• Angel Phoenix Arsenal is a Melbourne Doula who has turned her obsession with all things birth, motherhood, sexuality, women's work, social media, justice-for-all, personal growth, passionate professional development and challenging-the-status-quo mindset, into an empire of inspiration.

• She is gregariously enthusiastic about creating monumental spaces where cis women, non-binary
  and/or non cisgendered women can come to play in BIG ways. She is also infatuated with all things powerful business strategy and principles, as well as the positively productive use of social media to successful, amplify your brand and business. Her instagram @the_angela_gallo is most certainly a playground of inspiration that you must explore.

• Angel also trains Doulas. And not just any kind of Doulas, either. Fierce, impassioned, unique, devoted-to-the-cause, resilient, visionary, trailblazer type of Doulas – the kind committed to bringing the humanity, connection and compassion back to a multitude of thresholds Doulas hold space for. Doulas who travel to the brinks of places where all hope is lost, and bring humanity back to the barren. 

In this episode we dive into:

• Demystifying the topics of oppression, self-suppression and the ways we have been taught to feel unsafe in our anger
• How the "good girl" mentality and not feeling 'oppressed enough' keeps us from participating in conversations that need to be had
• How anger serves a purpose in activating change, and how not engaging with the oppressive nature of our society is privilege in full action
• How to discover what you're truly passionate about
• How to have a healthy relationship with your anger, in a way that amplifies your work and cultivates confidence and conviction, vs. keeping yourself in a counter productive victim mindset

THE CHALLENGE:

Each episode of The Amber Hawken Podcast comes with a challenge and in this episode Angel challenges you to have the hard conversations:

How can you initiate the uncomfortable conversations, both in real life and on social media?

How can you ask better of those you know? Where are you letting things slide?

How can you back these conversations up with action?

Email hello@amberhawken.com and tell us about your results and or experience with this (we may not reply, but always here to listen and keep you energetically accountable).

As always, we adore hearing what you think of each episode and appreciate all your itunes ratings and comments on the podcast, so if you enjoyed it, please let us know by giving us a five star and leaving a review. You can head over to your favourite platform to do this and subscribe - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

More epic episode are on the way. Until then...

Hugs,

Ambz

My guest today is a repeat offender (guest) on the podcast.

What I love most about this podcast is how much change I know is possible for anyone who listens to it.

The conversation style of Jer and I becomes a crazy in depth banter where we take things to a deep level of understanding and embodiment, fast. It's just how we roll which is why I am so damn excited to announce the Ignite Your Life retreat we are running in August together in Byron Bay. Check it out here. 

Okay, a little background on Jer,

The man himself is a:

• TEDx speaker trying to make kindness cool. Watch the TEDx talk here.

• PhD scholar who spent the past five years studying the science of human behaviour, specifically how attitudes affect action and how we can communicate to inspire greater and lasting change.

• A spoken word poet who rants about love, life, and everything in between. Watch his most recent viral video here.

• Instagram and beautiful words @longdistancelovebombs

• A compassion-cultivating, day-making change agent, a kind heart, someone who believes in you.

The major take aways you'll get from this episode encompass:

• why human beings find it so difficult to change and how to get leverage on yourself to ease that grind
• it's not about massive action (even though sometimes it is), it's about the little things (which we dive into everyday examples of small changes for massive results)
• what it really takes to turn your investment of time, energy, money and 'hopes' into actual action despite a lifetime of resistance and patterning
• how to call yourself out on your own bs
• the most effective to to make change stick
• what kind of damage self denial, rejection, shame and guilt about not being good enough can do and how to spot when this is playing out in your life even though it's terrifying to face at times
• lots of jokes, dirty ones, bad ones, sad ones, ones that no one but ourselves will laugh at....

Enjoy!

Oh man. Welcome and thanks for being here.

It's been almost 15 months since I last released an episode and Im stoked you are here.

This episode is a solo session with myself where I will be teaching something that is the core of what I bring to any event, workshop, one on one session, retreat, corporate event and of course my own personal practice; self connection.

In this episode I take you through:

• The different associate elements of intuition, thought, feelings, emotions, motivation, action and results
• How to increase the fire for change towards what you want to expand on and create on in your life
• What prevents us following through with ideas of change
• The loop of negativity we often unconsciously find ourselves in and how to reverse it
• Explanation of self connection on a practical level
• How to use the breath to release tension or built up emotions
• How to use our breath to bring the mind, body, feelings/emotions and nervous system into balance
• A meditation that you can use anytime to come into your centre and connect to the present moment, recalibrating your mind, body and emotions with calm
• My background and different businesses I have that are relevant to what I'm teaching in the podcast

Guys, Im so bloody glad to be back.

This is also published at amberhawken.com

I have some epic guests coming up on the podcast, so please make sure you head over to your favourite platform and subscribe - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

Before you go, I have a favour to ask. If you enjoy any of the episodes, I would love it if you could let me know by leaving a review on iTunes with a five star rating. This helps the podcast reach those it may be of benefit to.

I would love to know how you went with this episode. Please leave a comment below about your experience with the guided meditation at then end. Did you notice a change in your energy or mental state?

Until next time!

Amber