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The Amber Hawken Podcast

As the founder of Amber Hawken and Calm Mind Project, Amber questions, unpacks and simplifies the paradox of being a spiritual being in this human experience. In her solo sessions and expert guest interviews, Amber asks the important questions, like, how can we be human with less suffering, and more joy, love, growth, impact and purpose? Through clarity comes understanding and from understanding comes aligned action and wisdom. This podcast interviews experts on life science, spirituality, psychology, relationships, mental, nutritional, physical and emotional wellbeing, and entrepreneurship to alchemise confusion and fear into clarity and aligned action. Each episode has real time transformational exercises and/or techniques that can be integrated into everyday life to ensure maximum impact for the time you invest listening. Each episode will enable you to get back to what’s true and vital; your true nature and how to get there in each moment, over and over again.
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Nov 28, 2019

Are you leading or are you being lead?

And whatever the answer….is it a conscious decision.

This podcast made me hurt from laughing and cracked me open with its truth.

It's with the brilliant,  Traver Boehm.

Traver is the author of Today I Rise, a TEDx speaker and men’s coach, currently practicing intentional nomadism. He is the founder of the Man Uncivilized Movement redefining the way around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both the Primal Masculine with the Divine.

What I love about this podcast is that I know in my heart of hearts, just by listening people will have some profound shifts and life insights.

Traver is the kind of man that makes the feminine feel safe because, within himself, he’s done, and continues to do the integration work of his shadows. But most of all, he’d be too humble to say so.

In this episode, we unpack the history of masculine trauma, the light, dark and gold of the shadows and the evolutionary consciousness and importance of our collective healing.

We unpack how he came to write his freshly published and genuinely soul-awakening book, The Uncivilised Man.

A few of  the many points we cover:

  • How the masculine unconsciously or consciously outsource their emotional healing to the feminine
  • What's in the shadows of the collective masculine
  • What a man can do to make a woman feel safe
  • The history of how men became civilised, suppressed and traumatized and the ripple effect that we are now facing.
  • The devil and savior of social media and its connection to depression and healing
  • How the birth of the Civilised concept evolved from a conversation about Mc Donalds.
  • What a shadow is and how to find the gold in the shadows and or reclaim the power that’s maybe there
  • The red flags that there is trauma to be worked through and how it plays out in a relationship and life
  • How the masculine shadow triggers the feminine shadow and how the feminine can make the moves first to catalyse healing
  • What steps you can take to heal and move towards the truest most conscious version of yourself?
  • Compassion, compassion and more compassion.
  • CHALLENGE:

Find someone you can trust and have an honest conversation with, and share what your written reply to this question is (writing for one minute) “if my pain could speak to me today it would say”…

Pain has depth, you have to go to a depth to reach pain. 

You have to breathe to find it and then breathe to heal it.

So, loves...

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Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

 

Nov 20, 2019

Did you ever think to look at your missing element?

Me neither, until I spoke to Debra Silverman on podcast #37

Debra Silverman is part Astrologer, part psychologist, part comedian and ALL REAL. She helps people turn on their own inner observer, to see the things they say and do in a totally objective way. Debra has been in private practice for over 40 years. She uses astrology and her own system called The 4 Elements (or 4E for short) as tools to help people step into their power. Debra’s mothering approach to understanding and empowering people from all walks of life has earned her international fame and admiration. She has written a book, magazine columns, hosted a radio show and has a YouTube channel with over 7 million views.

Key takeaways we explore:

  • the science and art of combining psychology, astronomy and astrology
  • how to read astrology as the cheat sheet and fine print of our life lessons
  • the basics of sun, rising and moon signs to understand yourself
  • how to understand your elements and how its relative to balance
  • the relationship of spirit working through our personal journey
  • how to look within our signs and understand what keeps us stuck and how to  un-stick :)
  • being the most yourself you can be is the best way to avoid suffering
  • how to figure out the connection between you missing element and how you can become unstuck
  • using astrology to navigate and choose relationships
  • where to look to to understand your life lesson to get right to the centre

Website

Facebook

Instagram

Youtube

CHALLENGE

Discover your missing elements and surrender yourself to the greater good.

Each day, proclaim: use me, let me serve, let me be a channel for all. 

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunesSpotifyLibsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

Nov 4, 2019

If you want real life examples of what it takes, looks and feels like to re-parent, heal, transcend the destructive behaviours that kept us safe as children but sacrifice our true selves as adults, this is your podcast. 

Kylie McBeath is the Co-Founder of Zura Health, Writer, Emotional Wellness Coach, and a spokesperson for soul. She is committed to uncovering the tools, technology, and ethos to live a life at the bleeding edge of our potential. From inner struggles to moments of complete bliss, Kylie invites us to the depths of our own shadow so that we can integrate, accept, and become the most aligned version of ourselves. Her mission is to create a world that is in harmony with all of life’s expressions by simply being her raw, vulnerable, and human AF self.

What I feel you'll vibe the most with in this episode:

  • The road out of sabotage is liberating, but it comes with your whole body having to go through  the motions of fear and "death".  
  • It's a process which we face on a human level as we collectively shift from powerlessness to  reclamation
  •  Examining "death" and our survival strategies that are no longer in alignment with our highest
  • Stepping out of punitive consciousness and cultivating practical practices to support this growth
  • Tools and techniques that you can use right now to help you sustain your new choices and beliefs when it feels scary and impossible
  • Exploring how boundary setting is a process that requires action and consequence not just verbal explanation
  • Unpacking the different ways in which our feeling 'not enough' unless we receive or do X, Y and Z can show up in the masculine (yang) and feminine (yin) imbalance
  • That we are all human, supporting and navigating this life and how powerful it can be to learn the lesson of asking for support, being radically honest with yourself and most of all, how to do this

This episode is so personal because well, it's something we all go through as humans and both Kylie  and I are real about this. We both know that expressing out  own journeys as well as sharing  advice, tools and techniques to do  this powerful work yourself are equally as important. W

We will definitely have a part two on this one!

For now, here is where to get more of Ky...

Website

Instagram @beingisbeautiful

Youtube

CHALLENGE

Reconnect to yourself, your inner-child and all the part within you. In stillness, validate all of the parts of  yourself that feel alone, unloved, unworthy. place your hand  on your body and give these parts of yourself hands on love, support and energy from within yourself, DAILY.  

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunesSpotifyLibsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Be in your ears soon....

Hugs,

Ambz

Oct 1, 2019

Be patient, love. 

If you’d like to bloom, you must first be willing to be buried. 

Sit in the mud, let it wash over you, let the tears wash you clean, step into the freedom of your pain and let it cleanse you of blame and then, watch your confidence rise up and present itself love. 

After overcoming a life full of trauma, physical and sexual abuse, near-death experiences, breaking her back and being widowed, Erika Cramer found herself drowning in pain and sadness trying to numb everything she had been through. These life changing experiences finally lead her to life coaching where she went on a deep path to personal growth and healing. As a confidence coach she is here to guide women to living a life where they seek progress, not perfection. She is taking a bold stand for women owning their throne and reclaiming their confidence.

What I loved most about this episode is that Erika wanted to lick my face and I wanted to lick hers.

Translation: We vibed, and these kinds of conversations are full of flow, soul, insight and deep transformation for listenings. 

We touched on:

  • How patience and perseverance through the rough shit is where confidence is learnt and cultivated. 
  • If you dont choose to connect with others through transparency and honesty, you will feel more alone and helpless, and will stunt your expansion and burry your esteem. 
  • Trust in self and life is built by committing to doing the work, and then acting on it. 
  • Ownership of your experience should not be as simple as a Pinterest quote on a wall;  it's about deep healing, purging and profound insight that comes from all of the above. 
  • Responsibility is not bypassing; you cannot be grateful and use your painful experiences until you've transcended the hurt and victim mentality. 
  • Purpose through hardship and experience is the result of first becoming uncomfortable and then choosing, with an attitude of oneness, to share, teach and support others. 

It is deeply delicious and it's going to rock your mind and heart. Listen to the episode here:

 

You can find more of Erika here:

Website and Info on the Sistahood

Instagram @thequeenofconfidence

Podcast

Youtube

CHALLENGE

I got so excited that I forgot the challenge questions SO, I'm going to make one for you. 

Go and read, “Loving What Is”, by Byron Katie. I'm dead serious, it's a wicked and essential read to accelerating self reflection and self awareness. It's also very freeing. 

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunesSpotifyLibsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

Jul 30, 2019

Let's talk mens integrity and mental health.

We are all connected to men in some way. We all have (or had) a father, we may have male siblings, friends, or intimate relationships, and we’re all intimately connected and affected by the mental wellbeing and integrity of men past, present and future. 

Part of the discussion of working through oppression and repression and patriarchy is how to prevent this from happening and help heal the unconscious within each person (specifically men in this podcast) that’s fuelling this in the first place. It’s being present with how this was created, building unity rather than separation from what we want to change, and support this through voice, action, unconditional love and expression. We need to heal together, not apart.

Mike is a men’s coach, author, and wannabe professional stone fruit eater. Mike is the founder of The School of Personal Mastery – a group coaching program for everyday men wanting to get their shit together and achieve greater success and happiness in their career, relationships, and life - without the guilt and hang-ups. 

With loving straight talk, Mike passionately makes personal development relatable, accessible, and applicable for everyday men to better help themselves and others. He is also the creator of Beyond The Beers, a show and series of live events for men taking a beer with mates to new depths, and actually talking about the shit that matters.

The dynamics of this interview shifts gears rapidly as we cover:

  • What does it mean when you ask a man “Who are you?” and how this question is not a judgement, but an invitation that will move you towards what you may not know you’re missing.
  • Understanding that avoidance or stimulation is a symptom of moving away from what we really need to pay attention to. Avoidance takes us in circles. 
  • Examples of what it means to be in integrity with yourself as a man; thoughts, actions, words and life itself. 
  • The struggles most men find themselves spinning around in and to identify where you are and what the next step may be.
  • Why feeling stuck and going nowhere is the perfect place to begin a deeper inquiry.
  • Specific questions to be able to reflect on when you feel stuck.
  • How to move from head to heart to be able to hear oneself, hold space and transcend emotions, deepen self connection and get to know yourself better.
  • Indoctrination to what it is to “be a man” and how we can ask the right questions to break away what no longer serves a man who wants to live in integrity. 
  • How radical responsibility for emotions and self growth are fundamental to the collective healing.
  • The relationship between masculine and feminine in a relationship and how our partners can reflect back our self deceptions.

Okay, more of Mike,

Where you can find Mike

Website

Instagram Handle

CHALLENGE

Find someone (either Mike, or search for a local  group in person) you resonate with online, and connect and take action on this. 

Remember: everyone is walking around pretending to have their shit together - they don’t.Give yourself permission to not have all the answers. Be okay with not having your shit together, and know that you get to do something about it.

 

If you are enjoying the show, The Amber Hawken Podcast is available subscribe to on your chosen platform  - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn. Pretty please know we LOVE to see your reviews and ratings, they makes smile. 

Until next time....

Hugs,

Ambz

 

Jul 25, 2019

There is nothing more delicious than a conversation with someones heart, not their head. 

Chris Black, AKA,  Chriddy is an exceptionally open hearted guy, who on top of being an extraordinary singer, songwriter, artist, is one of my clients.

He was recently on The Voice, a reality TV music show and he shares about the massive lessons he's gained by being thrust into the spotlight through  this career advance and how that triggered some of the worst anxiety and fears of judgment he's been working with for many years.

In this episode, he shares how he overcomes the fear of judgement, the anxiety he experienced on the show and the freedom he found in breathing and meditation practices he uses each day. 

What we discuss in this episode:

  • Chris's experience of anxiety past, present and future and the impact of being on television as an artist and musician had on him
  • The biggest lessons he learned about authenticity, vulnerability and expression by being on national television
  • How to overcome negativity, criticism and rejection with a simple turn around thought
  • The simple tools he uses to work through dark times, negative thoughts and the fear of judgment of others
  • His experience with meditation, breath work, mindfulness and coaching and how he uses really simple practices to support a positive mindset and overcome fear on a day to day basis
  • Sharing  what's it's like as an artist to question and own what your "purpose" is and what that means to him and how he wants to contribute to others
  • His experience of a deep euphoria through his practices and how he uses this to achieve his goals
  • The advice he as for artists/anyone standing in the face of  fear and following their dreams
  • A VERY powerful action step for unlocking potential that we can all start doing right now

CHALLENGE

Each episode has a  challenge for listeners and this episode Chris challenges you to dream up  a big dream and each day in whatever  way you have available  to you right now, take a step or action towards it that scares the shit out of you.  

We are always so stocked to read and see your reviews, so if you enjoyed it, please let us know what you think of The Amber Hawken Podcast by rating and reviewing us  on your favourite platform  - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

 

Hugs,

Ambz

Jul 18, 2019

Let's talk about Reclaiming Anger!

My guest today is truly in the business of challenging the status quo, and in her own words, gets even the most stubborn of us grooving into an ass shaking + move making state of mind.

Angel Phoenix Arsenal (previously known as Angela Gallo) is on the podcast today with myself and my biz sidekick Tara Caetano (stay tuned for an upcoming solo interview with her soon), to help us reclaim our anger and open our minds up to our privilege, in a way that activates change for the future.

A little more about Angel:

  • Angel Phoenix Arsenal is a Melbourne Doula who has turned her obsession with all things birth, motherhood, sexuality, women's work, social media, justice-for-all, personal growth, passionate professional development and challenging-the-status-quo mindset, into an empire of inspiration.

  • She is gregariously enthusiastic about creating monumental spaces where cis women, non-binary
    and/or non cisgendered women can come to play in BIG ways. She is also infatuated with all things powerful business strategy and principles, as well as the positively productive use of social media to successful, amplify your brand and business. Her instagram @the_angela_gallo is most certainly a playground of inspiration that you must explore.

  • Angel also trains Doulas. And not just any kind of Doulas, either. Fierce, impassioned, unique, devoted-to-the-cause, resilient, visionary, trailblazer type of Doulas – the kind committed to bringing the humanity, connection and compassion back to a multitude of thresholds Doulas hold space for. Doulas who travel to the brinks of places where all hope is lost, and bring humanity back to the barren. 

In this episode we dive into:

  • Demystifying the topics of oppression, self-suppression and the ways we have been taught to feel unsafe in our anger
  • How the "good girl" mentality and not feeling 'oppressed enough' keeps us from participating in conversations that need to be had
  • How anger serves a purpose in activating change, and how not engaging with the oppressive nature of our society is privilege in full action
  • How to discover what you're truly passionate about
  • How to have a healthy relationship with your anger, in a way that amplifies your work and cultivates confidence and conviction, vs. keeping yourself in a counter productive victim mindset

THE CHALLENGE:

Each episode of The Amber Hawken Podcast comes with a challenge and in this episode Angel challenges you to have the hard conversations:

How can you initiate the uncomfortable conversations, both in real life and on social media?

How can you ask better of those you know? Where are you letting things slide?

How can you back these conversations up with action?

Email hello@amberhawken.com and tell us about your results and or experience with this (we may not reply, but always here to listen and keep you energetically accountable).

As always, we adore hearing what you think of each episode and appreciate all your itunes ratings and comments on the podcast, so if you enjoyed it, please let us know by giving us a five star and leaving a review. You can head over to your favourite platform to do this and subscribe - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

More epic episode are on the way. Until then...

Hugs,

Ambz

Jul 4, 2019

My guest today is a repeat offender (guest) on the podcast.

What I love most about this podcast is how much change I know is possible for anyone who listens to it.

The conversation style of Jer and I becomes a crazy in depth banter where we take things to a deep level of understanding and embodiment, fast. It's just how we roll which is why I am so damn excited to announce the Ignite Your Life retreat we are running in August together in Byron Bay. Check it out here. 

Okay, a little background on Jer,

The man himself is a:

  • TEDx speaker trying to make kindness cool. Watch the TEDx talk here.

  • PhD scholar who spent the past five years studying the science of human behaviour, specifically how attitudes affect action and how we can communicate to inspire greater and lasting change.

  • A spoken word poet who rants about love, life, and everything in between. Watch his most recent viral video here.

  • Instagram and beautiful words @longdistancelovebombs
  • A compassion-cultivating, day-making change agent, a kind heart, someone who believes in you.

The major take aways you'll get from this episode encompass:

  • why human beings find it so difficult to change and how to get leverage on yourself to ease that grind
  • it's not about massive action (even though sometimes it is), it's about the little things (which we dive into everyday examples of small changes for massive results)
  • what it really takes to turn your investment of time, energy, money and 'hopes' into actual action despite a lifetime of resistance and patterning
  • how to call yourself out on your own bs
  • the most effective to to make change stick
  • what kind of damage self denial, rejection, shame and guilt about not being good enough can do and how to spot when this is playing out in your life even though it's terrifying to face at times
  • lots of jokes, dirty ones, bad ones, sad ones, ones that no one but ourselves will laugh at....

Enjoy!

Jul 3, 2019

Oh man. Welcome and thanks for being here.

It's been almost 15 months since I last released an episode and Im stoked you are here.

This episode is a solo session with myself where I will be teaching something that is the core of what I bring to any event, workshop, one on one session, retreat, corporate event and of course my own personal practice; self connection.

In this episode I take you through:

  • The different associate elements of intuition, thought, feelings, emotions, motivation, action and results
  • How to increase the fire for change towards what you want to expand on and create on in your life
  • What prevents us following through with ideas of change
  • The loop of negativity we often unconsciously find ourselves in and how to reverse it
  • Explanation of self connection on a practical level
  • How to use the breath to release tension or built up emotions
  • How to use our breath to bring the mind, body, feelings/emotions and nervous system into balance
  • A meditation that you can use anytime to come into your centre and connect to the present moment, recalibrating your mind, body and emotions with calm
  • My background and different businesses I have that are relevant to what I'm teaching in the podcast

Guys, Im so bloody glad to be back.

This is also published at amberhawken.com

I have some epic guests coming up on the podcast, so please make sure you head over to your favourite platform and subscribe - iTunes, Spotify, Libsyn.

Before you go, I have a favour to ask. If you enjoy any of the episodes, I would love it if you could let me know by leaving a review on iTunes with a five star rating. This helps the podcast reach those it may be of benefit to.

I would love to know how you went with this episode. Please leave a comment below about your experience with the guided meditation at then end. Did you notice a change in your energy or mental state?

Until next time!

Amber

Apr 9, 2018

What are your intentions when you give?

Kelsey Grant is passionate about living in a world where people feel inspired, fulfilled, balanced and happy within the expansiveness of their intimate relationships. As a Love and Relationship Educator rooted in Radical Self Love Methodology, she writes, speaks and teaches men and women the art of accessing greater alignment with themselves, one another and the essence of true love. Kelsey so eloquently teaches the art of uncrossing the wires of understanding between men and women, expanding self-awareness and leveling up relational development, so legendary love, healthy relationships and sustainable partnership become possible again in this disconnected digital age.

She unpacks how our family dynamics growing up affect our relational intelligence, and how we can navigate the tough stuff like heartbreak with wit, humour and the best giggle I've heard in ages. We vibe on all this and more:

Moving through breakups

  • The danger of putting your partner on a pedestal
  • Boundaries 101 - what the heck they are & how we create them
  • The different types of boundaries
  • Unpacking boundaries within a family system
  • How abandonment plays out in our relationship dynamic
  • Why humour is an integral part of successful relationships
  • The role of the 'runner' & the 'chaser' within a couple
  • The danger of not communicating expectations
  • How to use conflict to strengthen union
  • How to bring up vulnerable conversations with a partner (or potential partner)


Own your side of the relationship



Listen in right til the end where Kelsey shares her mic drop last words on what she advises is THE most important thing we can all do in service of our relationships and catch more of her work through all of her social media platforms:
www.kelseygrant.com
Twitter
facebook.com/RadicalSelfLove
@radicalselflove on Instagram
A Year of Love Masterclass
Kelseys book, Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want

Apr 2, 2018

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University. She's the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, so can you guess what we chat about?

Yup, l-o-v-e.

If you are a human you will get so much out of this conversation.

Warning: we go deep real quick! I’m attracting these BIG conversations about relationships, the masculine and feminine and love lately as it seems many of us are leaning in to love.

Alexandra shares her own core wounds with such self compassion and vulnerability, it felt like having an intimate D & M with a friend.

She brings up some hugely valuable points about the shame people can carry from moving through infidelity (and when they let that shame stop the relationship transforming in to the 2.0 version), how curiosity within our relationships creates self-awareness, and the side affects of infidelity on our sense of self. Alexandra also shares her personal experience (backed by research) about how to keep the spark alive in her own 20 year marriage which could literally change the way we approach long-term romance. We unpack relationships through these topics and so much more:

  • How to know when to leave a relationship
  • How to come back to yourself
  • Why originally she resisted studying love because she was a feminist (and why that was an illusion)
  • Why reclamation of our inner child/younger selves is the most powerful place to go to heal
  • How active spiritual practices helped her move through the loss of her father
  • The beauty of what can come from trauma
  • Unpacking infidelity
  • Dr Alexandra’s favourite questions to ask clients in therapy
  • The bravest question to ask within a relationship
  • The silver lining of cheating
  • The top 3 ways to get the love you want
  • How to keep intimacy alive in long term committed relationships

And so. much. more. You’re gonna want to listen to this one, folks, as it could change the way you approach your intimate relationships forever.

 

Stand in the truth of your story

I love that she describes the space between the stimulus and the response as the place where we can consciously choose how we are going to handle any situation - this is ultimately the power of mindfulness, which allows us to live with more vulnerability and open-heartedness.

What a pleasure to converse about bringing science and soul together for successful relationships. Be sure to drop me a comment on Instagram about your biggest takeaway from this episode and what you’re going to explore or apply to your own life for the sake of deepening your relationship to love.

 
Mar 23, 2018

I think I may have found one of my favourite humans on the planet. Yep, author of The Good Hustle, Polly McGee is a walking paradox from the get-go. A tattoo-covered yogi who works in the corporate world, this woman has a story that I'm beyond excited to share with you today.

 Here’s why I know you will love this interview. We discuss:

  • The importance of serving others
  • Why she rejects the idea of 'fake it til you make it'
  • Why success is about the collective, not the individual
  • The quickest way to lose the moment you're in
  • Why you don't need to become a better version of yourself
  • The core wounds we all have & the real illusion of them
  • Defining 'Dharma'
  • Rejecting the expectations of the corporate world (especially suits!)
  • Happiness isn't the end goal... it's something else
  • Polly's personal practices for mental discipline
  • What Polly would like to have as a superpower

And so. much. more...

Be It Till You Are It

Whoa. Wasn't that awesome? Told you I found my twin flame. Polly is that passionate about the life-changing magic of meditation practice, that she is offering a copy of her brand spankin' new book, The Good Hustle, to TWO of my beloved listeners (one audio book & one physical book if you're old school like that).

Entering is simple: tell me WHAT your 365-day meditation commitment is + why you're doing it by emailing me at hello@amberhawken.com. Remember to also note which book you'd prefer: audio or physical. Giveaway closes Sunday 31 March.

Get more Pollydox here:

www.pollymcgee.com

@pollymcgee on Instagram

Mar 19, 2018

Vulnerability without strength is fucking chaos. Build foundations within, THEN, open your heart. Strength + vulnerability = Open hearted freedom.

Today’s guest Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, a TEDx speaker and men’s coach, currently practicing intentional nomadism. He is the founder of the Man Uncivilized Movement, redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity, and teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change.

We cover so much in this episode, from reaching deep into the darkest moment of Traver’s personal life where he found himself losing everything, to Traver’s “The Year to Live Project” that would eventually see him on a 28 day social experiment living in complete darkness and isolation in Guatemala. Traver is as real and honest as they come, and we dive into one my favourite topics, vulnerability, and how combining the Primal Masculine and the Divine is radically shifting the way men experience their masculinity. Because in his words, Men need both, women need men to have both, and the planet needs this more than we do.

Traver’s story, strength and his hunger to get deeply acquainted with what it means to go beyond everything you know to be true about life is infectious, and I could have chatted with him all day. If you’ve ever contemplated on what you would do if this was your last year alive and feel the pull to test your own limitations, this episode is for you!

Dive in to hear more on:

  • How honesty is the new vulnerably
  • Learning how to be vulnerable in a healthy way, as opposed to a destructive way
  • Learning what it is to die and be free
  • How our pain can be our guru
  • The power of pushing beyond your edge and coming back to life
  • How to be honest in your voice and actions
  • Cultivating energy and driving into the direction of love and creativity
  • Sexual energy and its ability to manifest
  • How to own your manhood and mature masculine
  • How to hold space for your partner and not get triggered
  • How to feel into the feminine sensuality and use that for purpose and enhancing relationships
  • Dying and understanding your insignificance in order to really live
  • Leaking energy by fantasizing, and how using stimulants and other distractions can destroy your life and relationships

When you are strong, you can hold space for yourself even when falling apart because you allow yourself too. You are strong in your unconditional love.

Be sure to tune in right to the end where I challenge Traver to 90 days of something very very difficult!

Mar 5, 2018

Anger is an emotion that often points to another emotion

Emily Ann Peterson is a singer-songwriter, creative consultant, and author of Bare Naked Bravery: How to Be Creatively Courageous. In 2013, Emily was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological hand tremor, which forever altered her two-decade livelihood as a cellist/cello teacher. Refusing to lose her life's love of expression, she knew she’d have to be brave, and man, is she that! In an act of neurological defiance, she expanded into wider mediums and broke through her creative glass ceiling, opening the door to limitless possibilities.

I just had to have this woman back on the show (check out this throwback episode with her a year ago) because we always go deeeep in to our personal stories of navigating life's curveballs with humour and honesty.. the only way you get it here with me!

 

Emily offers so much transparency and I adore the work she is bringing to the world. In this conversation, we cover this and more:

  • How to be brave
  • A new way to look at 'readiness' in terms of launching a creative project
  • Her most powerful method of self healing
  • Unpacking what we can do with our anger
  • The ingredients of bravery
  • What to do when we're faced with the feeling of "this is the end of the world"
  • How to identify emotions in your body
  • Why it's important to inspire the emotions we desire to feel
  • What advice she would give to her 15 year old self
  • How we express our truth through mediums other than our voice

 

If you don't understand your desires, you're screwing yourself over

Emily oozes a humble warmth AND a powerful fierceness that fuels her drive to be a catalyst for bravery. I've loved this conversation because we don't cover what's IN her book but the brilliance of the behind-the-scenes of what needed to happen for her book to come together. If you need more Emily Peterson in your life, find her here:

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Instagram

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Website

Mar 5, 2018

Anger is an emotion that often points to another emotion

Emily Ann Peterson is a singer-songwriter, creative consultant, and author of Bare Naked Bravery: How to Be Creatively Courageous. In 2013, Emily was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological hand tremor, which forever altered her two-decade livelihood as a cellist/cello teacher. Refusing to lose her life's love of expression, she knew she’d have to be brave, and man, is she that! In an act of neurological defiance, she expanded into wider mediums and broke through her creative glass ceiling, opening the door to limitless possibilities.

I just had to have this woman back on the show (check out this throwback episode with her a year ago) because we always go deeeep in to our personal stories of navigating life's curveballs with humour and honesty.. the only way you get it here with me!

 

Emily offers so much transparency and I adore the work she is bringing to the world. In this conversation, we cover this and more:

  • How to be brave
  • A new way to look at 'readiness' in terms of launching a creative project
  • Her most powerful method of self healing
  • Unpacking what we can do with our anger
  • The ingredients of bravery
  • What to do when we're faced with the feeling of "this is the end of the world"
  • How to identify emotions in your body
  • Why it's important to inspire the emotions we desire to feel
  • What advice she would give to her 15 year old self
  • How we express our truth through mediums other than our voice

 

If you don't understand your desires, you're screwing yourself over

Emily oozes a humble warmth AND a powerful fierceness that fuels her drive to be a catalyst for bravery. I've loved this conversation because we don't cover what's IN her book but the brilliance of the behind-the-scenes of what needed to happen for her book to come together. If you need more Emily Peterson in your life, find her here:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

Website

Mar 5, 2018

Anger is an emotion that often points to another emotion

Emily Ann Peterson is a singer-songwriter, creative consultant, and author of Bare Naked Bravery: How to Be Creatively Courageous. In 2013, Emily was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological hand tremor, which forever altered her two-decade livelihood as a cellist/cello teacher. Refusing to lose her life's love of expression, she knew she’d have to be brave, and man, is she that! In an act of neurological defiance, she expanded into wider mediums and broke through her creative glass ceiling, opening the door to limitless possibilities.

I just had to have this woman back on the show (check out this throwback episode with her a year ago) because we always go deeeep in to our personal stories of navigating life's curveballs with humour and honesty.. the only way you get it here with me!

 

Emily offers so much transparency and I adore the work she is bringing to the world. In this conversation, we cover this and more:

  • How to be brave
  • A new way to look at 'readiness' in terms of launching a creative project
  • Her most powerful method of self healing
  • Unpacking what we can do with our anger
  • The ingredients of bravery
  • What to do when we're faced with the feeling of "this is the end of the world"
  • How to identify emotions in your body
  • Why it's important to inspire the emotions we desire to feel
  • What advice she would give to her 15 year old self
  • How we express our truth through mediums other than our voice

 

If you don't understand your desires, you're screwing yourself over

Emily oozes a humble warmth AND a powerful fierceness that fuels her drive to be a catalyst for bravery. I've loved this conversation because we don't cover what's IN her book but the brilliance of the behind-the-scenes of what needed to happen for her book to come together. If you need more Emily Peterson in your life, find her here:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

Website

Mar 5, 2018

Anger is an emotion that often points to another emotion

Emily Ann Peterson is a singer-songwriter, creative consultant, and author of Bare Naked Bravery: How to Be Creatively Courageous. In 2013, Emily was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological hand tremor, which forever altered her two-decade livelihood as a cellist/cello teacher. Refusing to lose her life's love of expression, she knew she’d have to be brave, and man, is she that! In an act of neurological defiance, she expanded into wider mediums and broke through her creative glass ceiling, opening the door to limitless possibilities.

I just had to have this woman back on the show (check out this throwback episode with her a year ago) because we always go deeeep in to our personal stories of navigating life's curveballs with humour and honesty.. the only way you get it here with me!

 

Emily offers so much transparency and I adore the work she is bringing to the world. In this conversation, we cover this and more:

  • How to be brave
  • A new way to look at 'readiness' in terms of launching a creative project
  • Her most powerful method of self healing
  • Unpacking what we can do with our anger
  • The ingredients of bravery
  • What to do when we're faced with the feeling of "this is the end of the world"
  • How to identify emotions in your body
  • Why it's important to inspire the emotions we desire to feel
  • What advice she would give to her 15 year old self
  • How we express our truth through mediums other than our voice

 

If you don't understand your desires, you're screwing yourself over

Emily oozes a humble warmth AND a powerful fierceness that fuels her drive to be a catalyst for bravery. I've loved this conversation because we don't cover what's IN her book but the brilliance of the behind-the-scenes of what needed to happen for her book to come together. If you need more Emily Peterson in your life, find her here:

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook

Website

Feb 25, 2018

It's not ever about the body

In this special edition podcast, the roles have reversed and I am the interviewee. Kylie Mcbeath, co-founder of the holistic digital program Zura Health holds the mic this time as we role-reverse - you will recognise the wisdom of her voice from my most recent podcast episode (#23), Empowering Your Needs + Breaking Through.

I share loads about my experience in the health and fitness worlds that ultimately led me to the work I do today, and how something like emotional eating goes deeper than our relationship to food.

Time and again I’ve seen the one thing that can crush an otherwise empowered and successful person: lack of emotional awareness, mental empowerment, and overall self-connection.

I can’t stress these factors enough.

If you’re not seeing the results that you want from your self love affirmations, endless diets, and strict eating and exercise regimes, this message is for you. By results, I don’t just mean physical, I’m talking about achieving a deep sense of emotional fulfilment and love within. If you want to look in the mirror and feel gratitude and freedom, you must learn how to work with your mind and emotions so you are no longer their servant. We discuss (to name a few):

  • The core cause behind our unhealthy relationship to food and our body
  • A question to ask yourself that may radically change your life
  • An easy-peasy meditation practice
  • The core human needs
  • Disconnection = not living an alignment
  • Tools and action steps to cultivate deeper connection to self
  • Identifying our core values
  • Emotional resiliency and why it's so effing important
  • Understanding emotional data


Discipline, self connection, and emotional resilience are REQUIRED LIFE SKILLS if you want to let go of control, radiate with confidence, and find the happiness that you deserve.

Let me know over on insta (@amber_hawken) what this conversation brought up in you and drop a comment about your biggest takeaway.

Connect closer with what Zura Health is all about:

zurahealth.com

@zurahealth

Check out my other resources on body image, emotional eating and emotional resiliency:
How To Not Hate Your Body + Use Food To Escape Your Emotions
My Podcast (episode #15) with nude yoga teacher Rosie Rees

Feb 21, 2018

Today's guest, Kylie McBeath is the Co-Founder of Zura Health, Writer, Emotional Wellness Coach, and a spokesperson for soul. She is committed to uncovering the tools, technology, and ethos to live a life at the bleeding edge of our potential. From inner struggles to moments of complete bliss, Kylie invites us to the depths of our own shadow so that we can integrate, accept, and become the most aligned version of ourselves.

In this conversation, we get up close and intimate with the power of our emotions, and what the heckneeds even are.

Ky gets real about her own weaknesses and strengths and the reality that the work never ends – because that’s where the adventure is. Fulfilment is found when we play at our edge. Her mic drop advice right at the end is amazing and I share a little real life breakthrough from an experience I had with an angry man in a sauna…

We covered all of this and heaps more:

  • The perfect world we grew up with could sabotage our perfect adult life
  • How our relationship with our parents can write our future
  • Dealing with darkness
  • How to get yourself unstuck
  • How to have heart-centered anger
  • The difference between being overpowering and being powerful
  • Why going against our values is not about being a “bad person”
  • How to “do the work” and shift your life
  • Understanding spiritual bypassing
  • Learning emotional intimacy
  • How resisting, denial and being stuck in our story affects our relationships and our life

You don’t have to break down to break through

Kylie is a breath of fresh air in this realm of work. She’s honest about her own journey of unpacking her stories while holding a refreshing perspective on getting intimate with our emotions without getting entangled in them. She is a powerhouse and I hope you love this interview as much as I loved having this conversation! Let me know over on insta (@amber_hawken) what you thought of this podcast and drop a comment about your biggest takeaway.

Connect closer with Kylie:

kyliemcbeath.com

@beingisbeautiful on Instagram

Feb 12, 2018

Today’s guest, Connor Beaton, is the Founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s personal and professional development. He is a lifestyle entrepreneur and keynote speaker. A former Market Manager for Apple, Connor learned about business from some of the best in business. He hosts The ManTalks Podcast, which is a top podcast focused on building better relationships, wealth, businesses and mindset, and he has spoken on stages around North America with people like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes and Danielle LaPorte.

 

Today we dive into a much needed discussion about masculine and feminine energies and how embracing both leads us to a fulfilling and successful life.

 

Have you ever wondered why strong women seem to “drive” men away? Or why men are “afraid” to feel their emotions? Have you ever questioned whether you might be stereotypically defying the odds of what it is to be a man or a woman? Have you ever felt intimacy in relationships disconnect even though you still “love” your partner? What about wondering how to understand our anger, channel emotions, hold space as a man, open up as a woman and then flip this all upside down and inside out with each gender?

 

If so, then this is your interview.

 

Connor Beaton was a blast of a human to interview. He is raw, real, direct, poignant and experienced in all of the above. AND we also get a sneaky insight into the message behind not being able to, ah-hem, get it up…

 

Here’s why I know you will love this interview. We discuss:

  • Understanding masculine and feminine energies are not male and female dependant - we have both and need to embrace balance
  • Paradoxically understanding the need to create polarity within relationships to keep the attraction alive
  • Understanding how as a “powerful woman (or natural dominating feminine energy)” you can destroy intimacy without understanding how to come back into your feminine
  • How the masculine can overcome performance issues
  • Practical tools to step into the masculine for the feminine and vice versa
  • Getting in touch with your masculine in a healthy way as a female and being in your power without losing your grace
  • Getting in touch with your feminine in a healthy way as a male and reaching your potential and strength
  • How to "hold space" as a masculine
  • What we can do as a dominant masculine or naturally dominant feminine to connect with people and partners in relationships
  • The classic conflicts between the two energies
  • Understanding want and need, neediness and being needed and what is healthy and attractive
  • Discovering purpose and fire inside of yourself, not outside of yourself

 

This conversation was on fire. I loved it and Connor really provides such valuable tools and techniques so I know you will want more from him and ManTalks. Here is where you can find that:

 

connorbeaton.com

The Ultimate Guide To Purpose

ManTalks.com

Instagram

Facebook

 

Feb 6, 2018

Dr Jeremy Goldberg triggered tears to stream down my face in today's interview. This is somewhat uncommon for me and somehow the kindness seeping out of every cell of this human just GOT ME!

The science of compassion is something Jeremy has professionally and personally studied for over a decade. From researching and working on saving the Great Barrier Reef and the world's oceans to leaving little bombs of handwritten love across the globe, the love bursting from this man is pretty freaking extraordinary.

He has cultivated a strong base of over 35,000 people who are inspired by his writings on the daily and he has spoken his part about kindness on the stage of TEDx Townsville.

A spoken word poet, mentor, speaker and soon to be published author,  Jeremy and I (in short) dive into:

  • What we can ask ourselves if giving kindness to a stranger makes us feel uncomfortable.
  • The ripple effect of compassion and how it can flow on for years to come.
  • Starting right here, right now with your idea and letting it guide you.
  • Noticing that at our core, we are good beings and it’s just that we get in our own way.
  • How to have big bold dreams and simultaneously let go of the outcomes.
  • How the angst of a punk rocker was fuelled into a mission of spreading kindness.
  • What to do with the "imposter" in our mind that says our dreams are just not good enough.
  • The Get Shit Done restructure that needs to occur in our internal and external worlds to make lasting change.
  • Jeremy's biggest insecurities and how following his inspiration helped transcend his self-limits.  

 

I think our greatest lesson here is understanding that we are innately designed to love, be loved, give, receive and transform. That was my take away, and I would love to know yours - comment below and let us know!

And I will leave you with this…

Fuck This. We can do better. "We", as in, everyone. So, let's ask ourselves: What would the world be like if we were all just a little bit kinder? Dr Jeremy Goldberg

 

You can find Jeremy here:

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Feb 2, 2018
Did you know that nerve impulses sent from the brain move at a speed of 274 km/h!!!!!
 
Our guest today, Morten Bunkholt is Norwegian Chiropractor who is inspired by the capabilities of wellness and superhuman potential. He helps us understand the natural healing philosophy of our bodies. 
 
And our bodies are self-regulating systems and if we remove interference, it is capable of returning to peak condition - AKA homeostasis. Now there is a lot of everyday interference so it's important to have awareness around what that might be to maximise supporting the bodies natural wellbeing.
 
When it comes to chiropractic Morten is meticulous in attention to detail. He stands by the philosophy of sticking to a system that works and we dive into why talent isn't 10000% required for a result - you don't have the be the "best" when you have trusted and results-based method. 
 
We dive into:
 
  • How the brain and nervous system are connected and what role chiropractic can have in removing interference. 
  • The importance of knowing when not to adjust. 
  • What can cause interference in the spine and how to treat it. 
  • The three T's: trauma,  toxins and thoughts. 
  • How the brain and nervous system interacts with our organs and the role an adjustment can assist with our bodies normal regulation and health. 
  • Understanding that pain is the very last resort from our body trying to communicate interference with homeostasis. 
  • Some chiropractic plans can overstimulate the nervous systems and how to become aware of that. 
  • Getting in touch with your body for the sake of prevention rather than reaction. 
  • The basic chiropractic philosophy and its alignment with life. 
  • Mortens desired superpower!!!!

I'm inspired by such an aligned practitioner. I am all for intuition, feeling, sensory, trust and flow. But when it comes to our bodies, the power in reconnecting and placing ourselves in the best situation to heal again can be maximised by using systems that work. In the case of our systems, systems matter. 

I would love to hear from you - if any, what was the one thing you learnt about yourself and or wellbeing that you didnt know before - let us know below!

You can find Morten on all his social platforms below!

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Facebook. 

Instagram

Podcast

Hugs, 

P.S We LOVE to hear your comments and thoughts. You can leave a review and rating and even subscribe if you would like to be notified of new episodes at iTunes just here!

Jan 16, 2018

The guest on today's show, Simone Griffiths, who is the co-founder of Who Gives A Crap toilet paper, has been abundantly successful in raising over $1000,000 in donations and building toilets to those in need and in turn, contributing to the reduction of the (currently) estimated, 800 children who die a day from unsanitary toilet conditions in disadvantaged countries.

It all began with Simone sitting on a toilet for 50 hours straight, to raise the cash for his (successful) Kickstarter campaign which funded the first production of toilet paper. 

Simon and his team have massive hearts, using recycled materials for their paper, donating 50% of all profits which funnel into said donations and considers the economy, our environment and it's people every step along the production and distribution of their product. 

Simon was recognised in The Age’s Melbourne magazine as one of the top 100 influential people, and in 2013 he was shortlisted as Young Entrepreneur of the Year. 

What fascinates me most about this world is the variety of ways in which people discover themselves and what it is that makes them feel alive. Some of us seem to understand ourselves from a really young age, and some of us need to explore 13 different jobs, 50 countries and 3 marriages before we get it.

Simon is in my opinion, someone who falls into that first category - lucky bastard.

In a nutshell we discuss:

  • How to return to goals and find your ambition again after massive (perceived) failures
  • What is Who Gives A Crap toilet paper, and how does the business work?
  • The concept of consumer-driven philanthropy and how it is potentially a more effective way to make an impact
  • How the Who Gives a Crap toilet paper brand was born
  • The best advice for ensuring you’re not going to fumble over your own ego
  • What it means to be a social entrepreneur and the impact it has at a personal level, as well as professional
  • The process of creating a video that ultimately resulted in Simon sitting on a toilet for 50 hours straight to raise funds via a Kickstarter campaign
  • How standing out, creating memorable experiences and interrupting the industry doesn’t happen overnight, but takes patience, persistence and planning  
  • Why it’s the attention to the often overlooked details in business every single step of the way that creates momentum and customer commitment
  • How surprise, delight and weaving your persona into your business make for excellent marketing

After our interview, I went through my notes and smiled as I saw a similar pattern in Simon as I do in so many of the people I get on the show.

At our core, we know who we are and what it is we are capable of, even if we don’t know it consciously. It just seems that some of us are better are having a go, being different and following that contribution pull that seems to be ingrained into our human hard wiring, and we eventually end up with our heads and our hearts aligned, resulting in  the world becoming a better place.

Enjoy the episode and be sure to listen right through to the end where Simon shares his ultimate Dad advice that trumps most inspirational books on the shelves.

Also published at amberhawken.com

We would love to hear from you over on the blog, so make sure you go and check it out.

Most of all, time to switch toilet paper companies. Discover Who Gives A Crap and get your first box of delight right here. 

More places to find Simon and WGAC team. 

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Twitter

Hugs, 

Ambz

Jan 10, 2018

Jordan Harbinger is the co-founder of the prodigious show, The Art of Charm, where he squeezes the wisdom from leading entrepreneurs, celebrities, authors, and experts on psychology, human performance, behavioral economics, and success. According to Forbes, Jordan is one of the 50 best relationship-builders in the world, and after listening to this interview, you’ll legitimately understand why.

Jordan is an exceptionally interesting and intelligent character, having shared his ideas worldwide, including with Silicon Valley, the U.S. Military, the Department of State, and Department of Defence.

In a nutshell, we discuss:

  • The development of your fulfillment through diversity, as opposed to ‘following your purpose’.
  • The difference between using and abusing skills in human behaviour and the long term game of psychology and behavioural intelligence.
  • Understanding manipulation vs. contribution when you are in a position of power.
  • How boredom can lead you to very interesting and successful places if you go with your interests.
  • How to fit in five languages, a law degree and a podcast that has produced conversations with some of the world’s most exceptional people and had millions of downloads.
  • How to separate from fear in a healthy way and make the right decision (both in life threatening situations and your normal everyday circumstances).
  • Why he recommends diversity via experience and experimentation.
  • The danger of empathic people not being able to tap into their intuition as well.
  • Again, why following your passion is terrible advice (with justifiable reasoning).
  • How to break down, understand and most of all, cultivate your intuition and it’s signals.

… And this is just the beginning!

For a person who has hundreds of hours of experience interviewing exceptional people, Jordan remains down to earth, humble and kind, which is rare. What I loved the most was Jordan’s wrap up around what drives his work, which is essentially about leaving the world and people better than when you found them.

Jordan’s wide and diverse life experience and our shared love of human psychology and how things work, made this conversation feel like I was having lunch with an old friend. I had a giggle at it listening back, feeling like a curious child leaning into a conversation about life, coming to understand what the world looks like through his eyes.

I had the honour of interviewing Jordan in person at the We Are Podcast event last November and he closed the event just after this recording and shared how he escaped his second abduction. If you’re going to dig deeper into any interviewee I have on the show, I highly recommend you choose Jordan. It would be impossible to listen to his show and not become a better and more self aware person.

FIND JORDAN AT:

Subscribe to The Art of Charm podcast in iTunes here.


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Dec 21, 2017

Have you ever wondered what it might feel like to 100% be yourself, no apologies needed?

Sure - fear and self-doubt might be present, but you are doing you, anyway. Well - today's guest lives life in this way; raw, open, expansive, unfiltered and slightly explicit. Just the way I like my guests. 

This is why you will love this episode with Thomas In Action (Thom Gardner):

Thoms story does not start off with him being deeply at peace with himself - quite the opposite - so we discuss how we came to this free space in life and self.

We cover:

  • Thoms entire journey from childhood until adulthood and what that looked and felt like for a man realising he was gay when he was only 9 years old. 
  • How to be gay and be okay with it. 
  • Addressing fear, judgment and how that can run your entire life unconsciously.
  • The parallel of business success and self-embracement. 
  • Owning your self-made limits and taking responsibility
  • Seeing that your greatest fear of judgment is a result of your own blindness and how to shift it to feel free to be yourself.
  • The number one key to confidence and fulfilment

Thom is an audacious young man with speed, spark and charisma. His YouTube success is up in the millions of views and I hands-down believe it is due to his connection and action according to his own inner compass. Even if that risks complete condemnation from some of the more conservative people in our world. This episode inspired me to own myself at a whole new level, and really, that's the most important thing in life in my opinion and experience. Once you can do that everyday life, discovering purpose, business growth, relationship s- the look, smell and feel a hellovalot more real and deeply fulfilling.  

I would love you to comment below on what Thomas' story gave YOU permission to own within yourself.

Reference links from the interview: Homosexuality: It's about survival, not sex.
Find Thomas online here:

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